Don’t call me beautiful, pretty, cute, sexy, hot, what have you.
Tell me I’m intelligent, bright, witty, kind, creative, resilient.
Admire my inner strength to overcome my adversities and not the strength of my cuticles.
Fall in love with my curiosity or my compassion, and not the curves of my body or the curls in my hair.
I am more than my outer beauty.
We all appreciate compliments, right? They’re flattering, uplifting, and kind. Compliments from strangers give me some mad hope in humanity. I admit I’ve been flattered when someone has told me I’m beautiful, pretty, or even hot. But as I have grown into a woman, I don’t really appreciate compliments on my outer beauty as much as I appreciate compliments on my inner beauty.
Outer beauty is superficial. Sometimes it’s really just genetics providing you with straight teeth, clear skin, beautiful eyes or whatever it is. Other times outer beauty has been “achieved” by tanning, dieting, teeth whitening, hair dying, waxing, using make up, and sometimes even surgery.
The known truth is outer beauty unfortunately fades. Someday our hair will turn gray and thin, our skin will wrinkle, and those perfect white teeth will fall out.
I want to be clear that I am not judging. You are beautiful no matter what you do.
And let me tell you. I dye my hair. I wear make up. I shave, pluck my eye brows, and look for the best form-flattering clothes. Most of us do, and there is nothing wrong with it. I’m not making these efforts for anyone else but me, because it simply makes me feel good.
The only problem is that we end up placing value on how “beautiful” we can become. We compare ourselves to our friends, our peers, strangers at Target, and to the airbrushed ladies covering magazines in the check out line. Our culture is too obsessed with superficial beauty… Especially in women.
Ask yourself, “What is the best compliment you can give a man?”
Smart, strong, funny, witty, or maybe even successful, right?
Now ask yourself, “What type of compliments do women majorly receive?”
You look beautiful!
I love your outfit!
Did you get a haircut? So cute!
I love that shade of lipstick!
When was the last time you heard someone tell a man he was pretty?
Don’t women want to be called smart and strong?
The compliments we women receive reinforce the standard of beauty and wrongfully place value in our outer beauty. This desire to be pretty is put into our heads beginning when we are just little girls running around the playground. By the time we are grown adults, this standard of beauty has practically been cemented for us.
But I got that mad hope that we can change that. Together we can revolutionize the standard of beauty. One compliment on inner beauty at a time. #DontCallMePretty
Stay tuned for Ways YOU Can Help Revolutionize the Standard of Beauty!